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Day in My Life (Primary School Child)

Things to think about when assessing the appropriateness of the daily routine of a child.

Waking up in the morning

  • Do I use a clock to get up?
  • What time do I normally get up?
  • Do I normally sleep well? Am I kept awake by TV or anything?
  • Do I wet the bed? If so is there someone to help with the sheets?
  • Does someone help me get up or do I get myself up?
  • Do I have to get anyone else up?
  • Is there anyone else up when I get up?
  • Who else is at home when I get up?
  • Are my mornings the same or is it different every day?
  • If I need medicine, does someone help me take it?


  • Is there food available in the cupboard for breakfast?
  • Do I eat breakfast in the morning? Is there food available? What do I like to have? Is it the same every day or different?
  • Is there someone to help me make breakfast or do I do it myself?
  • Do I need to make breakfast for other people?
  • Do I eat my breakfast with others or by myself?
  • Do I eat my breakfast at the table or in front of the TV?


  • Do I have enough clothes? Do I have the right school uniform?
  • Are my clothes clean, the right size for me, right for the weather?
  • Do my shoes fit? Are they right for the weather?
  • Does someone help me get dressed or do I do it myself?
  • Do I have water/a toothbrush and does someone help me to wash and brush my teeth?
  • Do I think I look ok in my clothes? Do I have a positive body image? Do I think I look fat/thin in my clothes? Do I get bullied or picked on because of how I look or what I wear?

Getting to school

  • Do I go to school? How far away is it? How do I get there? Are there busy roads to cross? Does someone take me to school or do I go by myself?
  • Do I need to take anyone else to school i.e. younger siblings?
  • Do I tend to arrive at school on time or am I late?

In school

  • Do I like school?
  • What is my favourite bit?
  • Which bit don’t I like so much?
  • Do I have any friends there?
  • Are my friends the same age or older/younger?
  • What do I do at breaks? Do I have a snack?
  • Do I eat school dinners or packed lunch? Am I hungry at school?
  • Do I have the right things for school – uniform, coat, wellingtons, PE kit?
  • Do I have a favourite teacher or someone I like to talk to?
  • Do I fall asleep in class or struggle to concentrate?
  • Do I see anyone for help at school – ELSA, school counsellor, support worker etc?
  • Is there anyone that I don’t like at school or think is mean?
  • Have I ever been bullied?
  • Do I go on school trips?

After school

  • How do I get home from school?
  • Do I go home at the end of the school day or do I go to afterschool clubs?
  • Does someone meet me at the end of the day and take me home or do I go to friends’ houses or somewhere else?
  • Is there anyone at home?
  • Do I watch TV and if so, is what I watch okay for my age?
  • Do I play any video games? Do I play online? Does anyone supervise me when I play online? Do I play with other people online and do I know who they are?
  • Do I have a Facebook account, or other social media account?
  • Do I have my own mobile phone and do I use this to message friends? Who are the friends? Are they all from school or are there others? Have I met them all?
  • Do I have homework to do and does anyone help me with it?
  • Do I like doing my homework, does anyone check that I have done it?
  • Do I have to look after anyone else?
  • Is there food available?
  • Does anyone help me get some food?
  • Do I need to get food for anyone else?
  • Do I play out with friends after school? Who and where do we go?
  • Do I like to play with toys?
  • Do I have toys and games at home?


  • Do I have a dinner in the evening and what time is this?
  • Who makes the food?
  • What do I eat?
  • Do I have a favourite food?
  • Do I eat that food all the time or do I try new things?
  • Do I eat with others, and at the table, or do I eat by myself?
  • Is there anyone I can tell if I am hungry and do they provide food for me?
  • Do I watch TV and what do I watch?
  • Do I use the internet or social networking sites? What device do I use – laptop / tablet / phone? Does anyone check what I am doing on the internet / are there any parent controls?
  • What sites do I visit online and what do I do?
  • Do I chat online or share any information or pictures?
  • What do I talk about?
  • Do I go out in the evening and if so, who do I go out with?
  • Where do I go and what I do there?
  • Do I have to be home by a set time?
  • Does my carer know who I play with?
  • What do I do with my family in the evenings?
  • What do my carers do?
  • Do we spend time together or do our own things?


  • Do I go to bed at the same time every night?
  • Who decides when it is bed time?
  • Does someone help me wash and get ready for bed?
  • Does someone help me to wash and brush my teeth?
  • Where do I sleep?
  • Do I like where I sleep?
  • Who else is in the house at night time?
  • Do I have to look after anyone else at bed time?
  • Do I have my own room or do I share with others?
  • Do I have what I need in my room (clean bed, curtains, warm floors)?

School holidays/weekends

  • What do I do in the school holidays?
  • Do I have to look after anyone?
  • Do have chores / jobs to do? If so what are they?
  • Do my carers look after me during the holidays or are they at work? If at work where do I go – to holiday camps or friends houses?
  • Is there anyone else who looks after me?
  • Do I go on days out and play with friends?
  • If I get free school meals during the term what happens in the holidays?
  • Is there food to eat at home?
  • Is there someone around to help make food and supervise mealtimes?

Additional Considerations

  • Do I have any additional or complex needs (e.g. do I have a physical or learning disability; poor mental health; am I an asylum seeker or have been trafficked or am I a young carer) which can impact on my life?
  • Do I need additional support to help me reach my full potential, and if so, do I get that support?
  • Could a day in my life be improved, and if so how?
  • Do my parents have additional or complex needs and how does this impact upon me?